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Hidden in Plain Sight is a podcast for people-pleasing, perfectionistic, over-giving women who can't seem to find relief. Hosted by psychologist Dr. Lauren Schaefer, this show explores the hidden diagnoses behind lifelong anxiety, depression, self-doubt, shame, and burnout among women whose symptoms have been written off as "just anxiety and/or depression." This is a podcast for deep-feeling, overthinking women who’ve been called too sensitive, too anxious, too intense, or too much, when really, they’ve just been misunderstood.

We’ll talk about the perfectionism that may have developed to hide your ADHD, or the obsessive-compulsive personality traits to overcompensate for neurodivergent executive dysfunction; the intrusive, obsessive thoughts that rule your mind. We will touch on your ability to be a chameleon in relationships, taking on the personality of those around you, and not knowing who you are outside of your relationships. We'll explore how emotional intelligence, people pleasing, an overcontrolled personality, and hypervigilant masking can hide neurodivergent wiring, leading to late diagnosis and poor self-image. We'll explore how your unique nervous system wiring translates physically and common co-occurring physical health issues. And you'll learn strategies to quiet your mind and calm your body.

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Hidden in Plain Sight - ADHD, ASD, OCD & OCPD - The Often Missed Diagnoses Driving Overthinking, People Pleasing, Perfectionism, Self-Doubt, and Burnout

When the Mind Won’t Stop Checking: OCD and Mental Compulsions

October 16, 2025 • Dr. Lauren Schaefer • Season 1 • Episode 4

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In this episode, Dr. Lauren Schaefer unpacks the often invisible or overlooked side of OCD, mental compulsions. While many people associate OCD with visible rituals or checking behaviors, for others the compulsions happen largely in the mind: replaying conversations, analyzing motives, or mentally reviewing to find certainty and relief.

Lauren explores how these silent loops can disguise themselves as problem-solving or “just being thorough,” yet quietly maintain anxiety and self-doubt. She explains how to begin noticing when a thought becomes a compulsion, how reassurance-seeking reinforces the fear cycle, and what healing looks like when you learn to let the uncertainty stay.

Gentle, relatable, and deeply validating, this episode is for anyone who feels trapped in their thoughts and ready to start reclaiming their mental space.

Relevant Links:

Non-Engagement Responses https://iocdf.org/expert-opinions/how-do-i-stop-thinking-about-this-what-to-do-when-youre-stuck-playing-mental-ping-pong/ and this

https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/effective-ways-you-can-respond-to-unwanted-thoughts

International OCD Foundation: How to find the right therapist. https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/how-to-find-the-right-therapist/

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